When the Pain Won’t Go Away: An Excerpt from Breaking the Chains

Is there a pain that aches in your soul? Something someone said to you. A storm that left its mark on your heart.  A trauma or past regret.

Although pain comes into our lives in many forms, the effects are usually the same. We tend to “slow down”—our joy slows down, our energy or zeal for life slows down, and our hope. We can’t escape the gnawing at our souls, and we may miss out on opportunities that God provides. We can try to get rid of the pain or ease it, and sometimes we find a cure. One cure is lasting.

The following is an excerpt from our recent release of Breaking the Chains: Strategies for Overcoming Spiritual Bondage. The article is called “When the Pain Won’t Go Away.” See if you can relate.

“When pain is birthed in our lives, it will take up residence until something greater crowds it out. For many people, getting married and raising a family is the ‘something greater.’ The demands of work and home life clamor for attention, and deadlines and busyness commandeer their time. Others set lofty goals and let ambition run its course. Still others try to find healing and peace in relationship after relationship, but the pain deepens instead of subsiding.

We can try to cram our schedules with busyness and invest ourselves in building relationships and friendships, and much of the time, pain takes a back seat. There may be little room for much else to inhabit our thoughts. Until we’re alone. Or the house is quiet. Or we can’t sleep at night. We need something greater—greater than our pain. We need God.

The comforting thing about God is that He sees the state of our hearts even when no one else does. He knows what caused the pain and why it continues. And He cares. No sin is too great that He turns away from helping us and offering us His grace and mercy. No trauma inflicted on us lessens our value in His eyes or causes Him to stop loving us. His fierce love for us moves Him to be our Champion. Our God does, and will, fight for us.

When the pain won’t go away, let God be the something greater you need. Flood your heart with the promises of His Word. Find refuge in His massive strength and goodness. See Him turn tears into comfort, heartbreak into healing, and lost opportunities into new beginnings. Draw close to Him, and let fellowship with Him crowd out the pain. Center your life around Him and His eternal purposes—loving people, sharing the gospel, encouraging others, and doing good.

Let God heal your heart …”

- Breaking the Chains, pages 97-98

If you’re going through a season of pain right now, it’s my prayer that you run to God and find refuge in Him. Draw close to Him and spend time in prayer telling Him what happened and how you feel. He already knows, but praying about it lets you process what happened and seek His help. Then quiet your heart before Him and listen for His comfort and guidance. Read His Word, and hold onto His promises. He knows how to make things better.

Then do the good things you know to do. One of my favorite movie lines comes from the second movie of the new Star Trek series. In an emergency situation, Captain Kirk told Spock, “I don’t know what I should do. I only know what I can do.”

Maybe the way out of your pain is not clear right now, but God knows how to cure it. Maybe you don’t know what you should do, but think about what you can do. Seek God’s help and do everything you can to stay close to Him and to move forward. He will shine a light before your steps, heal your crippled heart, and help you to fly on the wings of His grace and goodness. He is the healer of souls, lives, and dreams.

Have you seen God ease the pain of a loss or tragedy? Have you seen Him help you through a trial? Share your testimony of His help in the comments below. We can encourage each other to seek God’s help for whatever we face and to keep moving forward in life.


If you would like to learn more about our new book, click this link: Breaking the Chains: Strategies for Overcoming Spiritual Bondage. It is now available as an e-book as well.




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Comments (4)

  • anon

    Pain is an interesting topic. Everyone copes in different ways. Some want to be left alone while others seek out company. Some never talk about it, while others share every little detail. While we are all individuals and deal in our own unique way, with the pain we may have encountered, as this post reminds us all, God is the true healer and brings about real peace of mind.

    May 08, 2017
  • anon

    Thank you for sharing that, Sherrie. I am grateful that God knows about all of our hidden pains and how to heal them. He is the true Healer, and His healing can "stick." We may not be able to erase all the painful memories, but His presence, fellowship, and love can ease the pain we feel and give us freedom and even joy. Thanks for stopping by!

    May 08, 2017
  • anon

    Great article, Katy, and very relevant to all of us. Can't wait to get this book and start reading it, and sharing it with others!

    May 08, 2017
  • anon

    Thank you so much, Crickett! If you get the book, I hope you enjoy it.

    May 08, 2017

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