Don’t identify with the most pitiful time in your life.
Consider all that God has been to you, all that He has given you, and all that He has been building into your life all along.
Identify with Him and with what He has invested in you to be.
Consider all the great blessings that He has given you.
Identify with those.
If the environment around you was or is ungodly, you don’t have to identify with it.
You can choose to follow those influences, or God’s influence.
Identify with what you have chosen, or want to choose, not what has happened around you or to you, that was detrimental.
Identify with who God says you are in Christ.
Identify with who you have chosen, and live accordingly.